Well, you’re doin the dang thing! Or maybe you’re just thinking about eloping. Either way, eloping is becoming an increasingly popular choice for couples who seek a more intimate and personalized wedding experience. With the weight of societal expectations lifted from your shoulders, you’re able to focus on the intimate bond between two souls deeply in love. When you ditch the traditional trappings of a big wedding ceremony, you will find a sense of adventure while planning your elopement. With the simplicity of an elopement, you quickly find that the little things truly are the most beautiful.

So all of this sounds amazing, but where do you begin?
Here are some practical things to consider when planning your elopement.

DECIDE WHO IS COMING

One of the hardest things couples face when planning their elopement is whether or not they want to invite guests. Your guest count will have an impact on what your elopement day looks like, what locations you have to choose from, and your overall budget. If you decide to not invite guests, you will have a ton of flexibility with locations and not feeling rushed through the day. If you decide to go that route, you’re probably thinking “Omg our parents are going to be pissed” but if they truly love you, they will understand your reasoning for deciding to not invite anyone. If you do invite guests, think about how many. Most elopement locations require a minimal number of guests, so make sure to do your research and figure out whats best for you two.

PICK A LOCATION + DATE

LOCATION LOCATION LOCATION, they don’t say that for nothin Finding the perfect setting for your elopement is SO important. It sets the tone + vibe for your entire day. Are you envisioning a mountain view? Beachside? In the middle of the desert? Maybe at an epic Airbnb (that’s what I did)! Whatever terrain you’re interested in, make sure to keep in mind the climate! Do you want warmer temperatures? Are you looking for snow? Are you wanting autumn foliage or maybe wild flowers? Answering these questions will really help you narrow down what time of year to plan your elopement. I also recommend avoiding eloping during the weekends, it helps you avoid crowds and have more intimacy!

HIRE YOUR VENDORS (ESPECIALLY YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER)

Once you know your date + location, it’s time to start looking for your vendors! The first vendor you’ll want to hire is your photographer and videographer. Find someone who you’ll feel comfortable with during your day, but also who has incredible work! Photographers (like me!) work SO hard to make sure we document moments that feel organic to your love story. Hire your vendors as soon as you can. Most book up to a year in advance, so time is of the essence!

SUNRISE VS SUNSET

Two very important times to consider when taking photos for your elopement! Why? The lighting is just perfect for each! Sunrise gives more of a subtle golden tone, while sunset gives full golden hour vibes (my personal favorite). Although you’ll most likely have your photographer (me I hope!) with you for hours during your elopement, think about what time of day you’d like to have your intimate ceremony and take those couples photos! I’ll help guide you with any questions along the way.

RESEARCH PERMITS

Depending on where you want to elope, you should research into if you’ll need a permit. Permits are simply permission to get married on the property and also allows photographers and videographers access to document on those grounds. Most national parks require permits for elopements, which require a small fee. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, I can help you with all of that information during the planning process!

MAKE IT LEGAL

If you want to get married in a different state, you’ll have to get your marriage license from that state. Some states allow you to sign your marriage license on the same day you pick it up, other states have a required waiting period. Make sure you look into this information! It’s so important to make sure your wedding is actually legal. In most states, you will need to have an officiant lead your ceremony and sign your marriage license. Other states, like Pennsylvania and Colorado, allow you to “self solemnize” your marriage, which means you are not required to have an officiant or witnesses. Pretty cool if you ask me!
If you want to get married abroad, I recommend getting legally married in the states before leaving the country for your elopement. Some countries require you to have a marriage visa, which requires a lot of jumping through legal hoops to get married. Totally up to you, but just something to think about!

BEGIN TO DREAM

Elopements are so fun because you’re able to make it personal and unique to you two. The options truly are endless! Imagine saying your vows under the Redwood trees while listening to the brances swaying in the breeze. Or hiking up to a lake nestled in a mountain valley to seal the deal forever. Whatever it is you decide to choose, make sure it’s epic!

ADD PERSONAL TOUCHES

Just because you’re deciding to forego a wedding doesn’t mean your elopement can’t be sentimental! Imagine ways you can personalize your elopement. For example, my husband and I decided to have donuts from our hometown at our elopement to feel close to home, but we also catered pizza from a local spot where we eloped! I also decided to embroider our birth flowers into my Blundstones, which were my wedding shoes. Make sure you take the time to make some personal touches to your day. They will warm your heart when you look back and reminisce on the day.

HAVE THE BEST DAY EVER

Want to know why I think eloping is the best thing ever? It’s all about you two. You don’t have to worry about a gluten free menu for Aunt Sally, or wondering if your family is going to have an argument at the wedding. All of those stresses disappear when you decide to tie the knot alone together. It’s intimate, memorable, and the most special way to say forever to your person. I’d do it a million times over if I could! If you decide to elope, I promise you won’t regret it. But promise me in return that you’ll take me with you! I’d be honored to celebrate beside you.